Should boyfriends be giving their girlfriends money while dating?
Just last week, one video of a Nigerian man who claimed to have given his girlfriend over 100 million Naira within their few months of dating came online to cry out, saying she dumped him after everything he did for her especially after he gave her 100 million naira and she dumped him because he was poor.
This type of situation isn’t new to the dating community. People argue— women also get scammed. That is true, but the incident rate is low compared to men’s.
The lady made a response video and said she only collected 2 million Naira from him and on another avenue said he takes care of her needs, but not always. She stated she needed 2.5 million Naira for rent and he sent 1 million to her. She also claimed to have rented the current place the ex-boyfriend lives.
As always, my online cousins, it has ended in he said; she said. But we should learn from this story. Men gather around. I would like us to discuss this.
Please leave the answer in the comments.
- Should boyfriends be giving girlfriends a large sum of money?
- Should dating couples have future financial plans?
- If yes, what is the right way to prevent a love scam?
- Again I will ask, should boyfriends be giving expensive gifts to girlfriends?
Giving expensive gifts creates high expectations and creates scenario where, if one partner wants to walk away, it’s becoming difficult or a betrayal.
Difficult because of what we may lose if we walk away and betrayal because we appear to have betrayed the other person after all that they spent.
Hence, did the lady do something wrong by ending things with her millionaire boyfriend?
For me, the answer is no, dating is a non-committing relationship, and the person freely gave those gifts. You won’t get it back, neither will people say she committed any criminal offense.
Society may shunned the ex-girlfriend base on moral grounds, but will still live a carefree life while we wallow in regrets so, please don’t give anyone money that you will regret in the future when they disappoint you. Even loan too. Do not loan anyone money that if not returned gives your heart aches, regrets and had I know.
Here are takes from this:
- Don’t give anyone money you can’t forfeit if that person disappoints you or walks out of your life.
- Spend that money on your own personal development.
- if you must make financial plans together, get a lawyer involved or draft and sign an agreement.
Food for thought
People leave relationships they don’t benefit from and you know it’s true love when there is a lack of money or health. Remember the popular for richer for poorer.
Link to the videos girl interview and guys interview: https://youtu.be/e8_D2b0JFpQ?si=Q4kcFE-Ke_iHUlsH
https://youtu.be/1JRNPlcqsO0?si=AC7da4ndfUu3dpUH
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